There are a few different reasons why people may get Borderline Personality Disorder. A lot of people with Borderline Personality Disorder have had problems in their childhood, such as bullying or abuse. There are a few different ways to treat Borderline Personality Disorder, but the most common treatment if therapy, the NHS will normally offer you therapy. Sadly, having Borderline Personality Disorder may make it more likely that you will self-harm and have problems with relationships, alcohol or drugs, but just know that here is help available out there.
There are many symptoms of Borderline Personality Disorder. Emotional instability is a very common one. For example, periods of intense emotions that fluctuate, uncontrollable anger, mood swings, impulsivitiy and extreme difficulty maintaining healthy relationships. Everyone will experience Borderline Personality Disorder a bit differently, but if you have Borderline Personality Disorder, you may also have problems with:
- feeling isolated or abandoned by others,
- self harming or suicidal thoughts,
- coping with stress,
- getting on with other people,
- strong emotions that you find hard to cope with,
- misusing alcohol and prescription drugs,
- illegal drugs and substances,
- understanding other people’s points of view,
- staying in work,
- having a long-term relationship,
- being able to maintain a home.
If your doctor says you have Borderline Personality Disorder, they may say you have ‘borderline’ or ‘impulsive’ type Borderline Personality Disorder. There are small differences but there is some overlap between these illnesses:
- If you have borderline-type Borderline Personality Disorder you may have more difficulties with relationships, self-harming and feelings of emptiness.
- If you have impulsive-type Borderline Personality Disorder you may have more difficulties with impulsive behaviour and angry feelings.
The main treatment for Borderline Personality Disorder is psychological therapy, also called ‘talking therapy’. This may be one-to-one or in a group situation. Other treatments include:
- Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT)
- Cognitive Analytical Therapy (CAT)
- Mentalisation Based Therapy (MBT)
- Schema Therapy
- Psychodynamic Psychotherapy
- Therapy at a Thereputic Community
If you have, or think that you have Borderline Personality Disorder, there are a few things you can do regarding your own self management and self care, they wont obviously treat it, but they may help the slightest bit. This includes:
- If you’re offered group therapy or support, give it a chance. It may seem intimidating to start with but a lot of people find it helpful in the long-run.
- If you self-harm to deal with distress, think of other ways to deal with this. Try punching a pillow or writing about how you feel.
- Use an online mental health forum. Make sure that you check with a mental health professional how trustworthy the website is for helpful information on Borderline Personality Disorder.
- If something annoys or upsets you, try to wait a while before responding.
- Look for patterns in the ways you respond to things that upset you. This may help you to work through problems in relationships.
- Make sure you speak to a doctor if you think that your relationships with others are being affected.
People who suffer with Borderline Personality Disorder majorly struggle with impulsive behaviours, which is a tendency to act with little or no forethought, reflection, or consideration of the consequences. This can be many different things, for example, driving erratically or spending a large amount of money without thinking. This could cause the sufferer to land themselves in huge debt if they gamble or take out loans.
It is also common for people with Borderline Personality Disorder to suffer with drug or alcohol misuse. The drug misuse can either be prescription drugs or illegal drugs. This can lead to serious addiction and even accidental death.
Having Borderline Personality Disorder is nothing to be ashamed of but if you think you have it, it is important that you do see a doctor to get the help you most probably need and most definitely deserve!