Wednesday, 4 October 2017


1. What do you identify as?
I currently identify as a human.

2. How did you discover your sexuality?
I got my magnifying glass out and did some digging, I knew I would find it in the end. 

3. Who was the first person you told?
I cant even remember to be honest with you. I have 2 best friends in mind and it was one of them. 

4. Describe what it was like coming out.
To my friends, it was absolutely terrifying. Not knowing whether someone was going to accept or reject you, normally for them only to say 'I know.'

5. If you’re out, how did your parents/guardians/friends react when you told them?
I was asked if I was with the girl I am with now. 

6. What is one question you hate people asking about your sexuality?
'Are you sure you're gay?'
'Who's the man?'

7.  Whats your favourite thing about the LGBT+ community?
I absolutely love how everyone is so supportive of each other no matter what. How everyone celebrates a coming out story or a proposal.

8. Have you ever been to a gay bar?
I have, I went to G-A-Y in Manchester after Lucy Spraggan's gig at the Ritz in March this year with my friend Kellie and it was so much fun, such a lovely atmosphere. 

9. Who is your favourite LGBT+ icon/advocate/celebrity?
Its a toss up between Lauren Jauregui and Lucy Spraggan. Lucy's witty replies to homophobia always make for a good laugh on twitter or facebook. Lauren's open letter to Trump about his obvious misogyny, his homophobia, his dismissal of the arts, and his incessant ideology pushing of minority communities as terrorists, rapists, and criminals was inspiring and was her way of coming out which I thought was very clever.

10. Have you been in a relationship and how did you meet?
I have, I am currently in a relationship and funnily enough we met on Instagram- social media isnt always bad!

11. Have you ever faced discrimination?
Not that I know of, the only reaction I have ever got when holding hands with my girlfriend has been extremely positive. One happened in Liverpool when an older woman tapped me on the shoulder as we crossed on some steps and said to us, 'well done girls, its wonderful isnt it.' Another was in Derby when we were walking to the cinema, an older man just said 'excuse me, its nice to see that you can walk down the road like that (holding hands) and to be happy.' So, so lovely to hear, especially from the older generation than ourselves. 

12. Your favourite LGBT+ movie or show?
I mean, I dont really watch movies or shows but there was a short video which I think was called 'In A Heartbeat,' not too sure on the title, but that was so sweet and seeing children react to it absolutely warmed my heart.

13. The most ridiculous thing you’ve heard about LGBT+ community?
That being part of the LGBT+ community is a mental health disorder, or that you 'choose' to be.

14. The LGBT+ slur you hate the most?
I think 'faggot' is the most disgusting and offensive of them all.

15. End this on something you’d like to tell the world about LGBT+
The people of the LGBT+ community are simply humans, no different from heterosexuals. Sexuality doesnt make you much different and is not a choice. You are not just born straight and choose to be something else, its not like that. Children who have gay parents are blessed to have loving parents at all- no, its not forcing them to be gay, this is like saying straight couples are forcing their kids to be straight, stop. Gay marriage shouldnt be a thing, a happy marriage however should. LOVE IS LOVE, thats all.

Darkspots October 2017 Box!

Darkspots is technically a business but they are so far from balance sheets and email chains. The business was set up by 20 year old Liam Thompson, who is from the Midlands, who suffers just like the rest of us with small everyday anxieties and has faced a long battle with depression, joined by a small team of like-minded individuals. On a mission to help others, the business are understanding that we're not robots: we have feelings and its okay to ask for help.

Even today, in 2017, it is no secret that mental health has never been seen as equal in receiving treatment to physical health. Darkspots aims to tackle the stigma and help those who are struggling with mental health, clearly, 'desperate to make a difference and help others not only in this situation but throughout the real-life woes and raw emotions that education never taught us.'

Darkspots sent me a box to show my viewers and enable you guys to see what they are all about. I got this box as a one off, however, you can subscribe and get the box monthly.

Prices are as follows:
- Monthly - £15/month and if you break that down it's £3.50 per week (a small price for a positive change).
- A one off - £17.50.  

With this, you get the one box. The box is delivered at the start of every month, so your box may come the next month if you order it on like the 9th or something. You're not fixed into anything, you are able to unsubscribe at any point if you wish to. And finally, there are no added charges, not even a delivery charge.

What I really like about the boxes the most is that every item in the box is significant: they all have a purpose, all mental health related and helpful, which I think is so clever, promoting well being and self care.

What was in my box (October 2017 box):
- Darkspot 
- Mug
- Play-Doh
- Quaker Oats Big Bowl Original Porridge
- Upcycled Craft Necklace (@brokencrayonscrafts Instagram)
- Positive Badges

The box as it arrived. Initially I thought this was cute but it just got better when I opened it.

It comes packaged nicely and safely so nothing gets broken whilst it travels.

The first thing I pulled out was the little booklet that had my name on it which I thought was so cute.

In the little booklet it explains everything and the aim for the product in the box.

This box contains it all: stress relief, advice and comfort!

These necklaces are made by a mother and daughter that Darkspots found on Instagram who make the cutest crafts. This necklace is particuarly cute and a feel good item.

Who doesn't love Play-Doh? Fun as it is, there is a bigger reasoning for this being in the box. Sometimes it is the small things that keep us going. Bouts of anxiety can leave us feeling very tense and bringing about a need to relieve this before it becomes a big obstacle. Play-Doh can be an excellent way of doing this.

This little mug can be used as a little pick me up when you're feeling a bit down and are in need of down time, alone. Choose a drink of your choice, get a blanket, even a good book and unwind for a moment. Take some time to relax and look after yourself.

Breakfast is the most important meal of the day, they say. Porridge is perfect for them cold mornings, especially when you don't particuarly want to get out of bed. If you're a regular at skipping breakfast then this is perfect for you. All you need is a microwave and some milk.

These are my personal favourite thing out of the whole box. The badges aim to end stigma that surrounds mental health in todays society.

Do you want to find out more? Contact the company and get your own box!

Tuesday, 3 October 2017

If Someone Tells You They're Suicidal:

This is a list of things that may help you if you find yourself in a situation where someone has told you they are suicidal- to help the both of you.

- Understand firstly, that they are not looking for attention. If they have reached out to you, they must be genuinely struggling.
- Remind them that they are not a burden and will never be. Remind them how important they are to you. However, do NOT mention how broke you would be without them as this will add on to their guilt.
- Remind them of who they are and how strong they are.
- Keep in close contact with them, message at least once every day. If they dont reply after a few hours, drop them another message.
- Please dont make them feel guilty in any way at all. Avoid saying things like 'I need you to stay,' 'my life would suck without you,' ect.
- Ask simple yes/no answer questions. Often when people feel very low they wont want to talk, encouraging a conversation with something easy to answer is always the best option. Ask questions like, 'are you okay?' rather than, 'how are you feeling?' ect.
- Listen to them, help them to validate their feelings and believe what they are saying.
- Ask them if they'd like you to tell anyone.
- Ask them if they'd like you to take them to the doctors or hospital.
- If they threaten to end their life, i.e. say they're going to do it, call an ambulance or take them to hospital.