Wednesday, 19 July 2017

How YOU Can Help:

This is only going to be a short, quick post but it has recently occured to me that I am not very open with how I feel anymore, so if I say that I am scared or something along those lines then it must be somewhat of a big deal. From this I have seen that unless you, yourself experience the fears that I do, then you wont really have any idea as to how to help me when I express such feelings.

In this post I aim to help you guys to help me and other people who are like me in your lives. To make this less confusing and a lot clearer, I shall be writing different things for different situations.

WHILST OUT FOR FOOD:
- offer to order for me: normally there is absolutely no chance that I'll be able to order for myself. So, if this is a planned ahead thing, please offer to order (and hand money over) for me!
- ask me if I need to go to the toilet, toilet breaks are sometimes life savers, haha.
- try not to pressure me into making a decision.
- ask how you can help, I may not have an answer, but at the same time I might. I might just need a hug.

WHILST IN A SHOP:
- offer to pay for anything that I may want: again, I'd rather not buy something than have to pay for it.
- ask how you can help.

IF SOMEONE TALKS TO ME AND IM STRUGGLING TO REPLY:
- please take over if you are able to because truth is, I am probably dying on the inside and will remember that moment for months, if not years.
- tell me I did good even if I sounded like a 2 year old learning to talk, please.

WHILST IN A BUSY/CROWDED PLACE:
- have hold of me somewhere, whether it is onto my clothing or my hand, I don't mind as long as you've got me!
- make sure you don't lose me please or when you did, you'd most likely find me crying on the floor, oh. 
- ask how you can help.

VIA THE INTERNET:
- if you are on the receiving end of my stress texts I genuinely apologise in advance (or if you have been in the past) they are confusing so your best option is to just keep saying okay to what I say because if I'm honest, if you didnt understand first time, truth is, im probably still not going to make sense if I type it again.
- tell me to get a drink.
- don't invalidate how I am feeling, e.g. 'its all in your head.'
- tell me to put some music on if that is possible.
- talk to me about something I am passionate about to take my mind off the situation.
-  ask how you can help.

ANY OTHER SITUATIONS:
- ask me how I am feeling.
- ask me if there is anything you can do.
- try to take me out of the given situation for a mini break and then take me back. 

 I'm not sure how helpful this will be, but I thought I would at least attempt it, since people have asked how to help me.

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