Monday, 28 December 2015

Dealing With Death

Living and dying are part of our life cycle, but that doesn't make dealing with death, or fear of death any easier. The reality is that death is the only certainty in life, so it's good to try and get your head around it.
Grief is the word for the emotions you have when someone you care about dies. It's different for everyone but common feelings include:
  • Numbness - especially if the person's death came as a shock. It can be hard to believe they're gone. You may act like they're still alive at first.
  • Guilt - sometimes people regret the way they acted around the person who has died or even start to blame themselves for their death.
  • Frustration - someone you care about is gone and nothing you can do will bring them back. This can make you angry and confused. Sometimes we even get angry with the person who died, for leaving us.
  • Depression - it's normal to feel very sad when someone dies.
  • Tiredness - problems sleeping or loss of appetite.
All of these are normal feelings - most of them are unavoidable. Go easy on yourself and let yourself grieve.
Take care and support others around you.
Just note that:
  • There is no right or wrong way to grieve. It can be an emotional rollercoaster, with unpredictable highs, lows, and setbacks. Everyone grieves differently, so avoid telling the bereaved what he or she “should” be feeling or doing.
  • Grief may involve extreme emotions and behaviors. Feelings of guilt, anger, despair, and fear are common. A grieving person may yell to the heavens, obsess about the death, lash out at loved ones, or cry for hours on end.
  • There is no set timetable for grieving. For many people, recovery after bereavement takes 18 to 24 months, but for others, the grieving process may be longer or shorter. 
The best thing to do is to just give yourself time and to look after yourself at this time of hardship.

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