Tuesday, 3 December 2019

Christmas Is Awful!

For many people Christmas is their most favourite time of year: the food, the presents, the snow and everything else that the festive period brings. But there are so many people who struggle at Christmas time who might need an extra helping hand or the occasional hug from a friend.

There are so many people around the world who struggle with so many different things so it is so important to be mindful at Christmas time. Many people struggle with alcohol reliance and as you can imagine, Christmas must be the hardest time for them. With mulled wine, eggnog and so many other alcoholic drinks being very popular in the festive season, it must be so hard to escape it. Everywhere you turn there is a pub, a shop selling alcohol, a Christmas market selling hot mulled wine, temptation is everywhere. If you know someone who is reliant on alcohol or is sober who may be struggling, drop them a message, ask how they're doing, if you can do anything for them, if they need anything- just be there.

General loneliness is a massive problem, not only here in the UK but all over the world. Many people feel lonely, especially at Christmas time- people go away, their family have passed away, they have been made homeless, there are so many reasons why. The most vulnerable are the elderly who may need a helping hand in Winter alone and may just need a bit of company around the festive season so if you could offer that to someone, even just a neighbour, you'd be doing the world a good deed.

Christmas can be an incredibly challenging time for survivors of abuse who may be forced to see their abuser if they're family during this time of year. Some people who dont understand have pushed their family member to 'forgive and forget' their abuse but everybody deals with it in a different way. Toxic family members can also cause a lot of stress for someone at Christmas if they have to see them again, be reminded of their ways and damaging words. Sometimes its okay to remove yourself from a situation even if others dont agree!

Food, as you know, is one of the main focuses at Christmas time with food on full display all Christmas day: Christmas dinner, Christmas pudding, mince pies, cheese boards and whatever else everyone has. For some people this is incredibly desirable but for others it is their worst nightmare. Foor brings fear into so many peoples lives- which it absolutely shouldnt do, I know! But there are so many people around the world who struggle with eating disorders meaning that winter is particularly challenging. If you know someone who has issues with food or is recovering from an eating disorder, drop them a message, ask them how they're doing, its good to be kind.

After the death of someone we know and love, the 'firsts' are always a struggle. First birthday without them. First trip to the seaside without them. First Christmas without them. It is natural to be upset, losing someone is incredibly hard and the 'firsts' without them are always a challenge. What is important is to look back on the memories you had created over the years, reminisce. Read cards, look at photographs, talk about memories- remind yourselves of the good times. Reach out and support each other.

So many people are going through so much and it is hard to know what everyone is going through but if you have a particular person in mind when reading this, drop them a message, go and see them, I promise you that they'll be happy to hear from you.

Sunday, 1 December 2019

My Festive Bucket List

This festive period has come around super quickly this year- does anyone else agree? 2019 seems to have flown by, the New Year will shortly be upon us and I feel like I have achieved nothing this year, so for December, I thought I would make myself a festive bucket list to try to complete by the end of December so I too can feel a small sense of achievement in 2019, so here goes!

So, first things first, lets start with something fun. This December I want to visit some Christmas Markets. Although, I have actually been to the Christmas Markets in York already this year when we accidentally stumbled on them, during a spontaneous trip to get Christmas presents and see Lucy Spraggan- does that really surprise you though? I absolutely love York and think that it is such a beautiful place, so to witness the Christmas Markets there was rather magical! There were also 1 or 2 Christmas Market stalls in the Disney Village in Paris which was so incredibly magical and obviously I just had to get some candy floss. I am hoping that Amsterdam have some Christmas Markets when we go there in the middle of December because I think it would be such an amazing experience to look around them there... and find mum a Christmas bauble.

We all should know by now that I spend 90% of my life with my camera in my hand, so you could have predicted really that there would be something on this bucket list to do with taking photographs right? Well, in December, I'd like to take as many photographs as I possibly can. I have found that lately, I really dont take as many photographs as I used to and that makes me so sad because what the heck can I look back on? So as of now, December is all about making memories and capturing the memories in a photograph!

I think that this will be on most people's bucket list but I'd really love to see snow this Christmas period, or even better, have a white Christmas- I know, thats wishful thinking but a girl can dream, right? In May we adopted my dog, Dina and because it is her first Christmas with us, I really want it to be special. Can you just imagine all the cute photographs I could get of her seeing snow in the UK for the first time? That'd make my Christmas. I really think she will love the snow so please pray with me that we get some snow, even just a bunch of it for just a day!

My room always gets so messy, so in order to preserve my mental well being and my own sanity, I really think that it would be a good idea to attempt, yes attempt, to tidy a bit of my room every day just so that it doesnt get as overwhelming as it usually does and I feel okay for the Christmas period. Tidy room, tidy mind, right? No, I've never believed that either but its worth a try.

Go outside Ebony! I need to keep getting myself outside this December, yes, even if its cold, well hey, when am I ever cold? Anyway, there will always be a tub of hot chocolate powder waiting for me in the cupboard. Sometimes I really struggle to kick myself out of bed and get myself outside but I need to do it. Although, my biggest fear in Winter is slipping over and looking like a complete idiot.

And last but not least, the final thing on my bucket list is simply: to stay alive. The Christmas period can be incredibly challenging for so many people as you probably already know. I find it so stressful buying presents for people because I find myself questioning if they really like the present that I give them or whether they're just lying to me so that I dont feel bad- anyone else? Although, December is my main month when I do my projects. For those of you who arent familiar with my projects, every year, for Christmas, I try to do a project where I raise money for something or just generally try to make people smile. Last year I raised money for a friend of mine who was struggling financially which enabled her to pay her rent on her flat and have enough money to eat properly. The year before that I raised some money for another friend of mine who had been through some hardships through her life and whos family deserved something to smile for. This year, so far, I have raised £105 for Just For Dogs, done a massive project for Lucy Spraggan from all of her fans and managed to raise an additional £100 for Just For Dogs and £100 for Calm with the help of some very incredible Lucy Spraggan fans. As you can imagine, these projects can get very stressful but they are so incredibly rewarding.

Wednesday, 6 November 2019

Get Yourself A Vinylistic Creation

I was recently lucky enough to do a gifting collaboration with a wonderful little business called Vinylistic Creations ( https://www.facebook.com/vinylisticcreations/ ). The business creates personalised gifts for any occasion with the most professional, quick and friendly service possible. I was incredibly surprised with how fast the products arrived, how neat they looked and how good the quality actually was.  

When I opened the package I was greated with the first gift: the memory box. This box is perfect for anyone who has a lot of special bits such as photographs, tickets, wristbands ect, as it keeps all of your stuff together and looks pretty too! the lid is magnetic which I love too.

The memory box

The first thing I saw on the Vinylistic Creations facebook page was these incredible personalised pet Christmas stockings. I had never seen ones like this before and really just loved them and having adopted my dog, Dina, in May of this year, it will just make her first Christmas with us that little bit more special.

I was exceptionally surprised by this product as a whole. The quality is fantastic, it s a padded sort of stocking. You see all these flimsy ones but this one is perfect.

Dina's personalised stocking

And my favourite thing that I was sent by Vinylistic Creations is this bag. It is what I have been looking for, for a while now. As many of you know, I go to a lot of concerts which I take my DSLR camera to, so this bag is the perfect size to fit everything in. It is a small rucksack but it is big enough for what I need it for and it has long enough straps. I literally use it on every outing I go on now.

My rucksack

Again, these bottles are great quality, especially the flask type one. They look incredible with the personalised writing on and they function good.

They sell so much more than just the products I showed you, including: pencil cases, bags, mirrors, baby grows, frames, bottles, organisers and so much more, which are all personalisable and great value for money.

A massive thank you once again to Vinylistic Creations for gifting me these amazing products.

You can find their products on this link: https://www.facebook.com/vinylisticcreations/ and if you message the page, they are most helpful.

Friday, 20 September 2019

Ernests Retreat

Situated in the beautiful countryside of Ashover, near Chesterfield is Ernests Retreat, a glamping site for all.

Returning for our 2nd visit, Ernests Retreat kindly gifted us this stay. This place is hands down one of my most favourite places and I wouldnt hesitate to visit again. They have everything there which makes a perfect stay.

With a range of accommodation to choose from, including 3 different types of pods, there is something to suit everyone. On our first visit we stayed in pod which had several beds in, which Emily had surprised me with. Having only recently opened on our first visit we were pleasantly surprised by everything we saw. The pods were very clean and the showers were incredible- which, if you know me, is extremely important as I cannot go a day without having a shower.

Our 2nd and gifted visit was a year later than our first and we were surprised with how much things have improved. There is now a kitchen type building where there is a big sink to wash up all of your pots and dry them, a massive communal freezer with ice creams in and an honesty box- obviously I had one, silly question!

My favourite part about the site is the view you get to wake up to. It is no secret that I love photography so Ernests Retreat is my dream view to wake up to. With a view of the whole of Chesterfield, it is beautiful.

The whole site is very clean and family friendly. There is a big patch of grass in the middle of the pods where I have seen many kids playing football on and playing games. For the more little kids there are a few outdoor toys to play with like plastic slides and see-saws.

Compared to everywhere else we have stopped before, Ernests Retreat is at the top. The whole site is immaculate and perfect in every single way. I cannot recommend booking a stay at Ernests Retreat more.

We thoroughly enjoyed our 2nd stay here and will most definitely be returning in the near future. Maybe we should make it a tradition and return every July? Fingers crossed.

Thank you so much Ernests Retreat for a fabulous stay once again.

Friday, 23 August 2019

If I Ran The World…

If I ran the world, I'd make sure all the following was sorted, I know its not just as easy as doing it and saying it but its the thought that counts right?

If I ran the world, women and mens pay would be equal if they are doing the same job because everyone is equal and deserves to be treated it.

If I ran the world, mental illness stigma wouldnt be a thing because I'd make sure it was a part of the things children learn in schools so they are educated about it.

If I ran the world, there would be counsellors and therapists everywhere, for example, one in an office in a supermarket, a theme park ect, all free of cost without having to book an appointment, so people had easy access to the care, help and support that they need and deserve.

If I ran the world, I'd avoid spending money on pointless things like statues costing way too much and spend the money on things that actually need doing, like feeding the homeless.

If I ran the world, I'd make travelling almost free. I'd give everyone access to a certain amount of travelling so everyone has access to it. If you wanted more than you are given, it is then when you'd have to pay.

If I ran the world, I'd have a hotel/hostel type thing for anyone who has no place to sleep, somewhere where they felt safe. There would be counsellors and people to help with any underlying issues which may have caused the homelessness in the first place, for example, over excessive drinking or drug addiction. There would be people in place to help the people get back into the world of work, help them manage their money and eventually sort themselves out with a place of their own.

If I ran the world, I would make sure people had access to health care via the internet. For example, fully trained doctors who you can get in touch with over the internet or over a video call, where they can prescribe medication to help those who are too scared to go to the doctors, like those with severe social anxiety.

If I ran the world, I'd have a mental health recovery centre where you can just walk in and get help if you needed it, without having to go through a doctor.

If I ran the world, I'd normalise same sex relationships because love is love and love has nothing to do with anyone else other than the two people. 

Friday, 16 August 2019

True Or False: LGBTQ+ Edition

 I found these on Instagram and I thought it would be a different blog post to my usual, so here it is!


I am straight     FALSE
I am questioning     FALSE
I am out of the closet     TRUE
I am in the closet     FALSE
I am not straight     TRUE
I am genderfluid     FALSE
I am transgender     FALSE
I am female     TRUE
I am male     FALSE
I dont want to have a label     SOMEWHAT
I am single     FALSE
I have never dated     FALSE
I am in a straight relationship     FALSE
I am in an LGBTQ+ relationship     TRUE
I have dated the same gender     TRUE
I am afraid of my sexuality     FALSE
My sexuality goes against my religion     FALSE
I am ashamed of my sexuality     FALSE
I am not religious     TRUE
I am asexual     FALSE
I have LGBTQ+ family members     FALSE
I have LGBTQ+ friends     TRUE
I am homophobic     FALSE
My friends are homophobic     FALSE
I am transphobic      FALSE


trying to find the light
when all the light is gone
im having to fight
but its a million to one

im a creature of faux 
some would call a fool
but its hard to let go
when it started at school

the best is behind me
the worst is yet to come
i can almost guarantee 
that the future wont be fun

once a happy kid
now a scared adult
who’s mental health slid
self harm is the result

drag a blade across my skin
blood runs down like a stream
forever wishing i could win
and it all would be a dream

the scars they last a lifetime
they wont ever disappear 
recovery is the biggest climb
it was once my worst fear

everyone thinks im better now
but its only just begun
as easy as that i could say ciao
and my days would be done

but im not ready to go yet
there is still warmth in my heart
so please care and dont fret
we will never be apart.

- ebony 

Friday, 9 August 2019

What Is Life Throwing At Me?

I wrote this about a year ago now but never had the courage to post it. This is simply just a piece of writing.

To many people I am 'living the dream,' not working, doing nothing all day- but I'm not. I feel so lost and trapped in this crazy big world, with so many directions to take, so many choices to make and so much time to ache. This world is so massive yet I am so tiny. There are so many opportunities out there, none of which I can take. Things I'd love to do are so far out of reach for so many reasons. I've gained people and lost even more. Nothing I do seems to help or make a difference, I feel like all of my effort is for nothing.

Every day is a daily battle with myself. I'd love to be one of those people who get up at 6am, go for a walk, eat healthily and have a good job that they enjoy, but it just all seems impossible. I go to sleep late for many different reasons on different nights, bad thoughts, worries or just cant sleep, which obviously is the reason that I wake up later the morning after. If I dont get up at about 7am to put on make up, I inevitably feel disgusting and horrible, so, theres that. If I do wake up at 7am, I feel absolutely knackered throughout the day, meaning I feel hopeless and down, yet I will still go to sleep late that night. However, if I get more sleep, I will still feel hopeless and down, so I just cant win at all.

I barely like leaving the house anymore and thats what hurts the most. I never really want to get out of bed, I just cant be bothered at all. Every day is the same: the same struggle and fight to even leave my bed until the next day, where it will be exactly the same. If I do leave the house, I am normally thinking about what time I will be home because I want to go back to the comfort of the four walls that usually surround me, that I call my bedroom, away from all human contact.

There is only really one person that I enjoy being around anymore, yet sometimes it is still a task for me to want to leave my house. When I am with her, I forget everything (usually, I still get really down sometimes and have bad, bad thoughts but with her I feel safe, loved and comfortable and I am able to talk to her whether it is in person or through a text) but I feel so okay when I am with her and she does absolutely everything in her power to make me feel good and comfortable and no one else does that for me really. The worst thing is leaving her. Thats when everything comes flooding back and it hits me like a tonne of bricks. The second I leave her its there again, even in the last few hours of us being together before she leaves, because I know whats coming, I know that she is going and I know what I face when she leaves.

I want a job so badly, but I dont just want any job, because that terrifies me. There is no way I could ever be a shop assistant, not in the current state that I am in. I cant even walk down my road alone without getting sweaty palms, being shakey and panicky. I cant even get into my girlfriends car outside of my house if she has parked so her side is on the pavement without getting panicky. I cant walk into a shop and pay for something without getting panicky- who am I kidding? I cant do that at all. This frustrates the hell out of me, I wish I could do all of this. I wish I could get a job, but I cant, not right now anyway- I know that causes problems for some people but they are going to have to deal with it because nothing is changing any time soon. Having people talk rubbish about me not having a job upsets the hell out of me and makes me feel the absolute lowest of the lows, it not my fault I am like this, I have people to blame, although I wish I didnt.

Friday, 2 August 2019

The Day My Dream Came True

One trip I am definitely glad I booked was our trip to Newmarket Races. When Demi Lovato announced that she was playing Newmarket Races as (sort of) part of her Tell Me You Love Me Tour, I booked tickets as soon as they went on sale. It was expensive for me as I didnt really have the money but it was 100% worth it.

Before tickets actually went on sale, I discussed going there with Emily and she seemed up for the idea even though it was such a drive from us, but because she is an angel, she drove us there.

2 hours and 30 minutes the drive was supposed to be. I am sure it was 3 hours or more and a McDonalds stop later but we finally arrived in the surprisingly beautiful market town of Newmarket. I kid you not, there were horses everywhere. There was even a horse crossing, mad right? Theres a first for everything I guess.

Once we had parked up at the race course we headed to the gates to get in the queue where I found some of my friends I had made online including Kasey, Emily and Sammy, who were so lovely may I add! It was only an hour or so wait until the gates actually opened and we could go inside.

The stage was so much smaller than I imagined it to be which was great as it would mean that I would be much closer to Demi the whole time, yes! Now ahead was only the long wait until Demi finally came on stage, 6 hours or something? Easy. I'd waited 4 years to see her again so a matter of hours was nothing.

The excitement inside of me was building as the hours went down and it got closer to the time. A helicopter landed and we were told it was Demi as she had flew in from London.

1 hour left.

10 minutes left.

1 minute left.

* The start of confident comes on and my heart is beating faster than it ever has before*

Demi walked on and my brain was in meltdown mode. My absolute hero was on stage right before my eyes once more. Only this time, I was not at the back of the arena, I wasnt even in an arena this time, I was at the barrier at the races. This was a dream come true.

She started with confident and finished with tell me you love me and in the middle of her set? Purely incredible songs. She sang two of my favourites: my love is like a star and smoke & mirrors. But the one that got me the most? Old ways. I sobbed. This song means so much to me.

I took my camera to Newmarket Races and I am so, so glad that I did. I got some really good photographs that I am so proud of. Demi looked straight into my camera lens at one point and smiled and I think she looked in my soul, literally. I missed the photo though because she melted my heart and I put my camera down. I'll insert some of my photographs below.

I genuinely had the best time at Newmarket and it was worth every single penny. I had missed Demi so, so much so it was so nice to see her again. Sadly after Newmarket she got sick though. But after that I was able to see her on the tell me you love me tour, which was so incredible.



The moment before she looked straight in to my soul.

This was genuinely one of the best days of my life and I would do anything to re live this day if it was possible. Demi's vocals were incredible like usual and it just made my life.

Friday, 26 July 2019

This Or That Challenge

Cookies or cake? Cookies

Cat or dog? It really depends, I love both, so much but I think that dogs are more fun

Pop music or Rock music? Pop, obviously

Pancakes or waffles? Probably pancakes, I dont eat a lot of either really

Hot chocolate or coffee? Coffee

Morning or evening? Evening

Text message or call? Text message, I hate calling on the phone

French or Spanish? Spanish, but french is easier to learn

Summer or winter? Winter

Theater or cinema? It depends what I am seeing, I love both, but cinema definitely wins because of ice blasts

Love or money? Love, definitely. Money doesnt always equate to happiness

Book or movie? Movie, I am so lazy

Tea or coffee? Coffee

Chocolate or vanilla? Vanilla

Coca Cola or Pepsi? Pepsi

Rain or snow? Snow

Paper or plastic? Paper

Boat or plane? Plane 

Painting or drawing? Probably painting now

Reading or writing? Writing

Singing or dancing? Singing

T-Shirts or sweaters? Sweaters

Flowers or trees? Flowers

Phone or computer? Phone

Brown or black hair? Brown

Lions or Bears? Lions

Gold or silver? Silver
Frozen yogurt or ice cream? Frozen yogurt

Straight or curly hair? Straight
Fruits or vegetables? Vegetables

Roses or daisies? Roses
Pandas or whales? Pandas
McDonald’s or Burger King? Mcdonalds

Books or magazines? Books

Money or fame? Money

Piercings or tattoos? Tattoos

Bagels or toast? Bagels, obviously

Swim in a pool or in the sea? The sea
Shower or bath? Shower, I have to shower after I bath else because I feel gross still

Breakfast or dinner? Dinner

Facebook or Twitter? Twitter 100%

Mountains or beach? Beach probably, but I love a good view

Being too warm or too cold? Too cold

Pasta or pizza? Pizza probably, but I love them both so much

Online shopping or in-person shopping? Online because it is less stressful but in person because you can try stuff on and you dont have to mess around sending stuff back

Writing poetry or reading poetry? Definitely reading, I suck at writing poetry

Friday, 19 July 2019

My Girlfriend Said What?!

I asked my Girlfriend, Emily, a bunch of questions about me/our relationship, below are her answers!

Who said “I love you” first? Me (Emily).

Where was I born? Derby.

Which food do I like/hate? Pizza and hate any type of meat that looks minging.

I’m sitting in front of the TV. What’s on the screen? Music channels.

What’s my favorite band/musician? Emily Henshaw. Only kidding, Demi and Miley.

What’s my shoe size? too big, 9 or 10.

What’s my weirdest habit? I dont know actually, you've got a lot.

What am I good at? Writing, making food.

What am I bad at? Giving me attention.

What’s my favorite song? Old Ways by Demi Lovato.

What film always makes me cry? Demi's little thing on YouTube.

What is something you wish I didn’t do? Doubt yourself.

Where would I love to travel to? Budapest, Venice.

I’m ordering a pizza. What toppings does it have? Ham, pineapple, cheese.

What am I afraid of? Me. Doing something wrong.

What’s my nickname? Ebola.

What is the first thing that I do in the morning? Wake up and say 'I'm hungry'.

Complete this sentence: “My girlfriend is ______” My girlfriend is wonderful, the best, reliable, trust worthy, wanted, loved, loved even more, cute, gorgeous, beautiful, adored, adored a little more.

Where was our first trip together? To Tissington Trail haha. Then the zoo.

How long do I need in the morning to get ready? 4 hours. No, about an hour and a half max.

If you could change anything about me, what would it be? For you to have more confidence and have more belief in yourself.

I won £10,000. What will I spend it on? Me hahaha. A holiday, a new iPad, concert tickets, put some away.

What did you learn from me? How to use proper grammar.

Who is more jealous? I dont think we are the jealous type.

What celebrity would I love to meet the most? Miley or Demi.

Do I want a big or small wedding? Small. 

What was my most/least favourite subjects in school? English was most. Least was PE.

What is my favourite city? Liverpool, no Dorset.

What is my best friends name? Emily Henshaw.

What is my favourite book? Staying Strong.

If I am collecting something, what is it? Cacti, food.

Who is more indecisive? Both of us.

Who is the better kisser? Me.

Do I have many friends? Yeh.

Describe my ideal holiday. On a beach, in a unicorn, with me, sipping a cocktail.

Am I an introvert or extrovert? Introvert, it depends, if its at your house you're an extrovert, everywhere else you're an introvert haha.

Do I think your family like me? Yeh.

What is my most embarrassing moment? The time when my dad asked for a hug and you said no hahaha.

How do I make tea? Milk before or after you remove tea bag? You dont make me tea.

Aside from you, who is the first person I text when something exciting happens? Lucy Spraggan, nah just kidding, Becca probably.

Do I have a freckle in a weird place? Yehh, your nose.

Have I ever broke the law? Yeh, you stole my heart.

Do I like to cuddle whilst asleep? No you lie on top of me, yeh you do.

Have I ever broken a bone? Yeh.

Do I prefer chocolate or vanilla? Chocolate.

How can you tell when I am unhappy? When you dont put kisses on the end of texts.

How did we meet? On Instaaaaaa.

If I am having a bad day, how could someone cheer me up? By shitty jokes, sweets, crisps, roses.

Do I prefer fruit or vegetables? Fruit.

If you got a call saying I had been arrested, what would it have been for? Nudity hahhaha.

What was the first concert I attended? Mr Tumble. No it was Justin Bieber wasnt it?

How would I describe myself? Ugly, smelly, unwanted, unloved.

Friday, 12 July 2019

5 Guilty Pleasures

This is a sort of 'expose myself' blog post, to destroy the image you have of me, the truth: my guilty pleasures.

1. Crisps
If you have met me, you probably know that I love crisps more than life, honestly. All crisps, any flavours (just about). I could literally eat crisps all day, every day. Chocolate or crisps? Crisps. Sweets or crisps? Crisps. Snack? Crisps.

2. Celebrity gossip
I love celebrity gossip. I find myself reading any articles that I see on my twitter timeline, even if I know they're probably fake. It doesnt matter if I like the celebrity or not, if it is a bit of juicy gossip, I am probably reading it... Or have read it. I sometimes even have a googling session where I will type in someones name and just read related articles to the search.

3. Checking my blog stats
Checking my blog stats is something I am absolutely obsessed with. There is nothing more great than reaching a milestone or a goal that you have set yourself after it slowly creeping with regards to blog views, country reach ect!

4.  Watching Demi Lovato laughing compilations on YouTube
I go on YouTube and watch Demi Lovato laughing compilations as much as possible. There is something so infectious about her smile and her laugh and I just cannot help but feel happy when I watch them.

5. Stalking myself on twitter
I stalk myself on twitter at least once a day. I think I am a twitter perfectionist. If something doesnt look right next to something else, or there is a tweet with just 1 like, I will delete it. I delete all the replies to other peoples tweets because I think it just looks so messy.

Friday, 5 July 2019

I Interviewed Another Blogger!

I thought it would be awesome to interview another blogger, so I asked one of my personal favourite bloggers if she would be up for answering a few questions and she agreed!

Welcome to my blog Becca! I hope you are feeling good and are well. Could you start off by introducing yourself and your blog?
Thank you! I'm Becca from Becca Blogs It Out. I live in Kent, UK, with my husband and 2 year old twins, Jack and Alice.

When did you start blogging? What inspired you to want to start a blog?

I launched my blog on 6th July, so I've only been blogging for 2 months. I started out wanting to share my experiences of infertility and mental health. I feel very strongly about raising mental health awareness and a blog seemed like a good place to start!

What is your proudest achievement to date?

My twins! I'm so lucky to have them and they make me proud every day. Blog-wise, I'm proud of how quickly I've managed to grow in terms of traffic and therefore, how many people are reading my posts.

How do you want to improve yourself in the next year?

I need to work on finding a balance! I've been working so hard on my blog and it's exhausting. Self care is really important and I haven't been doing enough of that lately. I need to get more sleep and eat more healthily!

Who has impacted you most in blogging and how?

There are some really amazing bloggers that have been so wonderful. The whole Twitter community has been amazing. Emma from sunshineandrain.info has become a very good friend as we've been learning together. Ruth (ruthinvolt.com) is so inspiring. Jay (the Bearded Igor) is really supportive. There are too many to mention!

Where would you like to be in blogging five years from now?

I would like to still be raising mental health awareness and blogging about being a twin mum. I'd like to be earning a decent income by then, but we'll see?

What was the most challenging moment in your blogging journey so far?

I find it really hard to write posts about my own mental health. I do it anyway, because I think it's important not to hide how I'm feeling, so that other people who are struggling know that they're not alone. I wrote an open letter to all the friends I've let down because of my mental health, and publishing that - knowing that those friends would read it - was really hard.

What do you find the most frustrating aspect of blogging?

Finding time to fit it all in! I'm a stay at home mum, but the twins keep me busy during the day, so I work on my blog when they go to bed. My to do list just seems to get longer and longer.

I absolutely love everything that you stand for. You are an incredible mental health advocate and I can only thank you for that. What made you so aware of mental health issues?

Thank you so much! That's so sweet of you to say. I have struggled with my own depression and anxiety for most of my adult life, so it's a subject that's very close to my heart. My husband is also a mental health Occupational Therapist, so it's a topic that is talked about a lot in our house.

What advice would you give someone who is suffering in silence with their mental health?

Please don't. Don't try to do this on your own. Everybody needs help sometimes and there's no shame in asking for it. Talk to a friend, a loved one, your GP... whoever you feel you can trust. My inbox is always open to anyone who wants to talk. Don't suffer in silence - they don't give out medals for that.

What is your favourite post to date and why?

This is such a hard question. Please Don't Tell Me To Calm Down was really therapeutic to write, and I received so many lovely messages after I posted To All The Friends I've Let Down. So probably one of those.

I am proud of you for everything you have achieved and for everything you are achieving. We all appreciate your content. Do you have anything to say to your younger self?

Yes! If I could speak to my younger self, I'd tell her that everything will work out eventually. And to start blogging sooner!

Do you have any specific goals for the rest of this year?

I want to stay on top of my own mental health, keep posting good mental health related content and continue growing my blog so that more people read it. I also want to work on the parenting side of my blog, as this is the part I would eventually like to earn money from. And I have plans to blog more about blogging too?

Thank you for answering! Where can my viewers find you? Links please!

Thank you so much for featuring me on your blog. It really made my day to be asked! Your readers can find my blog at www.beccablogsitout.com and my social media links are below

Friday, 28 June 2019

Things They Dont Teach You In School

You know what I find strange? How we spend the majority of our childhoods in school yet they dont teach us a bunch of important things with regards to ourselves. When you're young, thats when you are trying to find yourself, trying to discover your talents and see what you are interested in, which is a fundamental part of growing up. Yet school is only focused learning academic subjects in order to attain high grades, which I think is so wrong.

Through school sadly many people get picked on and made to feel like they are nothing. I think there needed to be at least one lesson a week where students were shown their own worth, taught about the values of life and living their lives. This could also be a time for sitting and chatting about personal struggles or achievements for a sense of support in school from peers and teachers. Unfortunately, I doubt this would ever happen, but I wish it did. School doesnt at all make you feel your own worth, rather the opposite. You are constantly nagged at if you are underachieving. Told off if you arent taking part in lessons. Shouted at for needing a break. You are made to feel like a failure if you are underachieving in subjects and its so wrong.

I think it is important that children know that it is so important to follow your own path. If you have goals that you want to reach, it is important that you follow them and do what you want to do. In school you are definitely pressured by teachers to do more academic subjects if you are able, yet sometimes, it just isnt for you. In higher years of high school you are pushed and pressured into thinking about university, but again, university isnt for everyone and thats okay! I think my school was definitely lacking of someone to say that it is okay to do what you want to do and to not be pressured by anyone to do anything else.

When you leave school, you do realise the true value of family and friends. As you leave, you become distant from your old school friends and you begin to see who are true friends and who arent and you value them a lot more. Everyone is a lot busier after high school so seeing friends may be at the bottom of most peoples lists as their lives get hectic but that makes you appreciate who is there for you and who isnt. I think after you leave school, you are exposed to the realities of life a whole lot more than you were before and in time you may get faced with a death in the family or someone close to you which can truly break you. You soon learn that every day is precious, you stop taking things for granted and be thankful for every day you have on this planet and with the people you love, because sadly, tomorrow isnt always promised.

And THE single most important thing that they dont teach you in school, you ask? Self worth and self love. Loving yourself is the greatest power that you will ever have. If you dont even try to love yourself, there is absolutely no chance that you will enjoy anything that you do. Self acceptance is key and knowing your self worth is so important. You are so worthy of love, life, happiness and successes. You are so powerful and your words are so important. You are so strong and you deserve to be seen. You are perfect in every way and you should never let anybody tell you anything different.

Friday, 21 June 2019

Never Have I Ever: LGBTQ+ Edition

 I found these on Instagram and I thought it would be a different blog post to my usual, so here it is!

                                                       I HAVE or I HAVE NEVER 

Come out     I HAVE
Been in denial     I HAVE
Lied about your sexuality     I HAVE
Worn a binder     I HAVE NEVER
Dated the same gender     I HAVE
Been in a polyamorus relationship     I HAVE NEVER
Dated the opposite gender     I HAVE
Taken testosterone     I HAVE NEVER
Crushed on the same gender     I HAVE
Had homophobic friends     I HAVE NEVER
Has your religion go against your sexuality     I HAVE NEVER
Changed your preferred pronouns     I HAVE NEVER
Had homophobic comments from someone     I HAVE
Worn rainbow clothes     I HAVE
Been misgendered     I HAVE NEVER
Had good comments about your relationship from youngsters     I HAVE
Been confused about your sexuality     I HAVE
Kissed a gender you weren't attracted to     I HAVE
Had good comments about your relationship from the older generation     I HAVE
Been outed     I HAVE
Had questions asked about your sexuality     I HAVE
Been to pride     I HAVE